When you’re in the warm up at a show, and your legs are like jelly, because you feel like everyone is watching you, judging you.
When you lose your way in your dressage test, and you leave the arena thinking everyone must be laughing at you.
When you have a stop in the showjumping ring, and feel like everyone on the sidelines is talking about what a terrible rider you are.
When you get eliminated cross-country, and feel like people must be wondering why you even bother to compete at all.
When things aren’t going your way, and you feel like people are judging you, questioning your abilities, wondering why you’re even trying.
Remind yourself of this – that people care a lot less about you than you think they do.
Next time you feel nervous in the warm up, things don’t go your way, you fluff up a movement, get lost, have a stop, or get eliminated – focus on you and your horse.
Don’t worry about what’s going on around you – stay focused on your riding, how your horse is feeling, how you’re feeling, and what you both need to do next. One step at a time.
Don’t worry about your fellow competitors in warm up – people are too busy worrying about themselves to worry about you.
Don’t worry about the bystanders, the onlookers, or what they’re thinking. Chances are, they’re not even thinking or talking about you – and if they are, they’ll have moved on from you in a matter of minutes, and you’ll be quickly forgotten about from their memory.
Because, honestly – people care an awful lot less about you, than you think they do.
And if you do come across those few who choose to whisper, who choose to judge – say to yourself “𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘐 𝘥𝘰”.