𝘖𝘯 𝘢 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘥𝘢𝘺, 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 “𝘐’𝘮 𝘴𝘰 𝘭𝘶𝘤𝘬𝘺” 𝘰𝘳 “𝘮𝘺 𝘩𝘰𝘳𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘻𝘪𝘯𝘨”.
𝘖𝘯 𝘢 𝘣𝘢𝘥 𝘥𝘢𝘺, 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 “𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘮𝘺 𝘧𝘢𝘶𝘭𝘵” 𝘰𝘳 “𝘐 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦…”.
Why, when things go well for us, are we so quick to give away the role we played in the result, but when things go badly, we take full responsibility?
Why do we never think that a good day is because we worked hard for it, and a bad day might just be bad luck?
When we win a class, it’s because we are so lucky to have an amazing, forgiving horse. Not because we showed up in all weathers to practice, got lots of lessons, watched videos back to see what we could improve, and worked our way up to that show.
When we have a pole down, it’s because we fluffed the stride or choked the canter. Not because our horse just didn’t pick his feet up enough.
Why, when something good comes our way, is our immediate reaction one of guilt – “I don’t deserve this” – and not “wow I’ve worked hard for this, I’m so grateful”?
But why, when bad luck comes our way, do we think “this must be my fault” or “I’m doing something wrong” – not “this sucks, but I know I can turn things around”.
It’s time to change the narrative.
It’s time to stop giving away our power.
The power we have to achieve amazing things when we work hard and focus on our goals and dreams.
The power we have to turn a challenging situation around and make it better with our resourcefulness.
The power we have to learn from what works, and what doesn’t, for next time.
So next time you go to say “I’m so lucky” – ask yourself if it’s really luck, or if you’ve worked hard and deserve this?
Next time you feel guilty when something good comes your way – remind yourself, that you are deserving of this, and you have earned it.
Next time you go to blame yourself – remind yourself that sometimes things don’t go to plan, and you have the power to turn things around.
Keep your power. Appreciate your hard work. Celebrate your success.
You deserve it.