๐๐ฏ ๐ข ๐จ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐ข๐บ, ๐ช๐ต’๐ด “๐’๐ฎ ๐ด๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ถ๐ค๐ฌ๐บ” ๐ฐ๐ณ “๐ฎ๐บ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ข๐ด ๐ข๐ฎ๐ข๐ป๐ช๐ฏ๐จ”.
๐๐ฏ ๐ข ๐ฃ๐ข๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐ข๐บ, ๐ช๐ต’๐ด “๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ข๐ด ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ง๐ข๐ถ๐ญ๐ต” ๐ฐ๐ณ “๐ ๐ด๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ…”.
Why, when things go well for us, are we so quick to give away the role we played in the result, but when things go badly, we take full responsibility?
Why do we never think that a good day is because we worked hard for it, and a bad day might just be bad luck?
When we win a class, it’s because we are so lucky to have an amazing, forgiving horse. Not because we showed up in all weathers to practice, got lots of lessons, watched videos back to see what we could improve, and worked our way up to that show.
When we have a pole down, it’s because we fluffed the stride or choked the canter. Not because our horse just didn’t pick his feet up enough.
Why, when something good comes our way, is our immediate reaction one of guilt – “I don’t deserve this” – and not “wow I’ve worked hard for this, I’m so grateful”?

But why, when bad luck comes our way, do we think “this must be my fault” or “I’m doing something wrong” – not “this sucks, but I know I can turn things around”.
It’s time to change the narrative.
It’s time to stop giving away our power.
The power we have to achieve amazing things when we work hard and focus on our goals and dreams.
The power we have to turn a challenging situation around and make it better with our resourcefulness.
The power we have to learn from what works, and what doesn’t, for next time.
So next time you go to say “I’m so lucky” – ask yourself if it’s really luck, or if you’ve worked hard and deserve this?
Next time you feel guilty when something good comes your way – remind yourself, that you are deserving of this, and you have earned it.
Next time you go to blame yourself – remind yourself that sometimes things don’t go to plan, and you have the power to turn things around.
Keep your power. Appreciate your hard work. Celebrate your success.
You deserve it.
Very true! It can be so easy to minimise your hard work when really that is probably got you through the worst times.
So agree Katie, a great way to look at it!